Work
Approach
I help individuals and teams to have conversations that define their current reality – in business and their lives in general.
Structure, insight and presence support people to engage with what is real and to explore what matters.
My approach is a blend of conformity and non-conformity; it is reflective, engaging and challenging, and elicits hidden inner resources and collective wisdom.
From this new paradigm I help people to discover how best to contribute in a way that is meaningful, innovative and impactful.
Deeper conversations for insight clarity and progression
Relational Clarity
Relational: ‘Concerning the way in which two or more people or things are connected’
Deeper conversations build robust relationships that are the heart of every organisation. We must strive for relational clarity so that the conversations that need to happen can happen. This means exploring the way we are connected with ourselves, our colleagues and the teams we are a part of.
The quality of our relationships is central to our experience of life, relationships at home and relationships at work and we need to work to maintain them.
We need insight into how we relate and are connected to those around us, to gain the clarity we need for true leadership. When relationships get stuck they stagnate, disengagement follows and conflict can often be quick on its heels.
We need to look at ourselves and question our own thoughts, motivation and behaviour, and not get stuck looking backwards for the way forward, confusing the past with the future.
There is a ‘flower filled, sunlit meadow’ waiting for us all; a way of living and relating and working that is vibrant and alive. In order to find it we need to be clear about the way we relate and have the courage to have the conversations we need to have and to stop having the conversations that are no longer helpful.
We can literally change the world one conversation at a time, your world, my world, our world. Integrating a relational approach, which does that and seeking out the conversations that matter is time well spent and is essential for all leaders.
The wellbeing of an organisation is dependent on quality relationships, which are themselves dependent on real conversations. A healthy organisation needs engaged leaders, engaging effectively with themselves, their colleagues and their clients.
10 Pillars
I’ve discovered it is incredibly valuable to be more in touch with my own energy, my own thoughts, my own feelings, my own needs. From that space I can relate much more effectively with others. I’ve also learnt that there is a place outside of all of that which is even more valuable and that it is worth taking time to experience the ‘inner’ world to perform effectively in the ‘outer’ world.
Here are 10 pillars, which can enrich your life & enhance your personal effectiveness:
- Accept whatever you are doing
- Be accepting of other people’s reality
- Take an interest in what you think and feel and why you think and feel it
- Pay attention to the moment as everything exists in it
- Every problem is in the next moment not this one
- Self awareness is the key to personal effectiveness
- Create gaps in the chatter of the mind to connect to greater inner resources
- Making time and space to be restful, still and meditative is as valuable as periods of giving and doing
- Look for the kernel of fear in your thoughts words and actions
- Let go of wishing things were otherwise and fearing what might be